Don't feel bad; I consider myself to be one of the most "adult" and responsible of many of my friends, all owing to that ESTJ personality thing. But my actor crushes didn't return until I was 30 myself!
I did the whole massive crush thing in my early teens (Duran Duran OMG I LOVED THEM), and for many years after that I was only interested in Real!Boyz. But then in 1999, when I was turning 30 myself-- and I'm aging myself here-- I developed a searing hormonal thing for Ewan McGregor. After that it was all downhill-- David Wenham, Orlando, Ioan, etc. And I've even progressed to fictional or animated characters. I watch anime and develop massive crushes on men who are DRAWN. ;)
However, my obsessions have usually been focused around a character, rather than the actor himself. As far as Ewan, it was all about Obi-Wan. Any fanfiction or fantasies I had revolved around the Jedi-ness of him. But I would still watch anything Ewan was in, just to admire his talent and his hottness. Same with Ioan-- it was all about Hornblower, but in the heat of my passion I would still search out anything with him in it, just to drool. I’ll still be at the theater to see Amazing Grace.
According to "professional" things I've read about those people who stalk actors, the percentage of those people is actually very small and what we do is quite innocent in comparison. The ones who are dangerous have something up with them already, and it’s not necessarily their obsession with the actor that’s the real problem.
Truthfully, I've never been very interested in the actors’ personalities themselves, just in what they do on-screen. Yeah, I've read about Ioan's private life, scoffed at his girlfriend's dresses, etc-- I even know someone who's in FF4:2 and have been given the option of going up to Vancouver. But call me crazy, I’d rather save my money for my Japan trip this fall. NOT that I wouldn't maybe pay money to put my tongue on him, if the opportunity was guaranteed, or if I had some Guinness and some Spanish Fly. ;) I’m still a red-blooded woman, after all. (And saying things like that is somewhat “over the line,” but I think it’s perfectly safe to do with your friends who understand you, ha ha!)
Overall, though, I figure my fantasy of the character is best and I'll stick with that. It’s an escape that I enjoy; everyone has their escapes, though some are more socially prevalent than others (sports, politics, etc.) Some people consider actor/character crushes juvenile, but those are often the same people who consider science fiction or fantasy to be juvenile, people whom I consider to have little imagination. And with character/actor crushes you can learn the characters at your leisure and explore them, what you like and what you don’t like. In real life, what if I met Ioan and he was a vapid jerk and I hated him? (Though I actually hear he's super-nice; I'm speaking hypothetically). I've met actors/bands serendipitously who were jerks, and now I don't want to listen to their music/watch their movies.
And the people who like you will understand you! At work they laugh good-naturedly at my pictures/calendars/DOLLS in my office. But those things have brought out the other people like me in the office. I have several women now, some married, some older, some younger, who stop by my office to say “did you see those amazing new pictures of Orlando on the Internet?”
Whew!
As for the tagline on your page, personally I’m not offended. I have the dirtiest mouth EVAR, fuckity fuckity fuck. (Actually, I heard a new obscenity this morning. My minion Jeremy came into my office this morning, saying that another woman in the office was a “thunder-cunt.” I laughed until I almost fell out of my chair.) But the tagline is not work-safe! Even when minimized, it says “I wanna fuck N” at the bottom of my Windows, LOL!
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Don't feel bad; I consider myself to be one of the most "adult" and responsible of many of my friends, all owing to that ESTJ personality thing. But my actor crushes didn't return until I was 30 myself!
I did the whole massive crush thing in my early teens (Duran Duran OMG I LOVED THEM), and for many years after that I was only interested in Real!Boyz. But then in 1999, when I was turning 30 myself-- and I'm aging myself here-- I developed a searing hormonal thing for Ewan McGregor. After that it was all downhill-- David Wenham, Orlando, Ioan, etc. And I've even progressed to fictional or animated characters. I watch anime and develop massive crushes on men who are DRAWN. ;)
However, my obsessions have usually been focused around a character, rather than the actor himself. As far as Ewan, it was all about Obi-Wan. Any fanfiction or fantasies I had revolved around the Jedi-ness of him. But I would still watch anything Ewan was in, just to admire his talent and his hottness. Same with Ioan-- it was all about Hornblower, but in the heat of my passion I would still search out anything with him in it, just to drool. I’ll still be at the theater to see Amazing Grace.
According to "professional" things I've read about those people who stalk actors, the percentage of those people is actually very small and what we do is quite innocent in comparison. The ones who are dangerous have something up with them already, and it’s not necessarily their obsession with the actor that’s the real problem.
Truthfully, I've never been very interested in the actors’ personalities themselves, just in what they do on-screen. Yeah, I've read about Ioan's private life, scoffed at his girlfriend's dresses, etc-- I even know someone who's in FF4:2 and have been given the option of going up to Vancouver. But call me crazy, I’d rather save my money for my Japan trip this fall. NOT that I wouldn't maybe pay money to put my tongue on him, if the opportunity was guaranteed, or if I had some Guinness and some Spanish Fly. ;) I’m still a red-blooded woman, after all. (And saying things like that is somewhat “over the line,” but I think it’s perfectly safe to do with your friends who understand you, ha ha!)
Overall, though, I figure my fantasy of the character is best and I'll stick with that. It’s an escape that I enjoy; everyone has their escapes, though some are more socially prevalent than others (sports, politics, etc.) Some people consider actor/character crushes juvenile, but those are often the same people who consider science fiction or fantasy to be juvenile, people whom I consider to have little imagination. And with character/actor crushes you can learn the characters at your leisure and explore them, what you like and what you don’t like. In real life, what if I met Ioan and he was a vapid jerk and I hated him? (Though I actually hear he's super-nice; I'm speaking hypothetically). I've met actors/bands serendipitously who were jerks, and now I don't want to listen to their music/watch their movies.
And the people who like you will understand you! At work they laugh good-naturedly at my pictures/calendars/DOLLS in my office. But those things have brought out the other people like me in the office. I have several women now, some married, some older, some younger, who stop by my office to say “did you see those amazing new pictures of Orlando on the Internet?”
Whew!
As for the tagline on your page, personally I’m not offended. I have the dirtiest mouth EVAR, fuckity fuckity fuck. (Actually, I heard a new obscenity this morning. My minion Jeremy came into my office this morning, saying that another woman in the office was a “thunder-cunt.” I laughed until I almost fell out of my chair.) But the tagline is not work-safe! Even when minimized, it says “I wanna fuck N” at the bottom of my Windows, LOL!
Have a lovely day, deah!!!!